But I don't go around fearing that every place that hosts my stuff has a dude that's gonna get obsessed and stalk me.

But Mastodon admins? Having been here over a year now, I wouldn't trust most admins here to hold my beer let alone control anything about my communications with other people.

There is no accountability here. Admins don't have to know anything about what they do, or know anything about keeping users safe. I've seen enough breakdowns and instance torching.

3/5

Very few admins have real-world references. Too many are anonymous. Most have never dealt with the actual perils of online communities.

All this to say, please do your research or find someone who you trust to do it for you, lest you end up on yet another instance that is going to implode in a few months. Letting anonymous people with no accountability run your shit is so dangerous.

4/5

And slightly related: I'm trained in domestic crisis situations as part of my work with CASA. (I'm also cleared by the FBI to work with kids.) I don't have the resources to devote to it right this second but if there is a need for a resource for our community or Masto as a whole in terms of what to do if someone in the community is in crisis, I can help with that.

It seems like there aren't a lot of people in power who know what they are doing here.

And yes, I can tell you without hesitation that posts without CWs get 1000x more attention. CW anyway.